Monday, October 1, 2012
Mother attempts to murder daughter- Margaret Canady
An Afghan Muslim mother attempts to kill her rebellious daughter with a kitchen knife in Montreal, Canada.
Bahar Ebrahimi, a 19-year old girl, for months had been rebelling against her family's Afghan culture and Muslim religion. "I want to enjoy my life," she told her mother. Her parent's rules included no smoking, drinking, or dating, and being home by 11 PM.
Two nights in a row, Babar stayed out past dawn against her parent's wishes. The first night, Babar told her parents she was downtown enjoying a concert. The second night, her father cried and tried to talk to Babar. Her mother, Ms. Kaleki, then took a kitchen knife, hid it under her shirt, and told the father to let her talk alone with her daughter. Ms. Kaleki began to hug Babar and give her a massage, but then repeatedly stabbed Babar's upper body. Babar managed to escape with her father's help, and survived the attack after suffering serious knife wounds. Ms. Kaleki told her husband, "Let me finish her," and her daughter, "It's for your good."
Ms. Kaleki was arrested and is charged with attempted murder, aggravated assault and illegal use of a weapon. Ms. Kaleki, in a four-hour interview, hopes her daughter gets well, but believes the incident "will make her strong and give her wisdom."
I don't believe this mother is crazy. Of course, her actions and want to kill her daughter are ridiculous and absolutely horrible. However, Ms. Kaleki was raised where honour killings were not uncommon, and a rebellious teenager was disciplined severely. She honestly believed, in her mind, that her daughter needed to be punished for disrespecting her parents.
What Ms. Kaleki failed to remember when she decided to stab her daughter was that she was living in Canada, not Afghanistan or a Muslim community. Rebellious teenagers are the norm, and Ms. Kaleki should had modified her parenting skills to adjust to the lifestyle.
My sympathies go out to the daughter and father who had to go through this experience.
Source: http://news.nationalpost.com/2012/09/26/its-for-your-good-let-me-finish-afghan-canadian-told-police-she-stabbed-daughter-with-kitchen-knife/
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This is so sad to hear, to think that when we rebell we get grounded but never consider this happening. I agree that this mom needs to modify her parenting skills.
ReplyDeleteThis is a terrible thing to happen in a family, and I too feel bad for the father and daughter as I think about them putting this behind them as a family. I also agree with you when you said that the mother needs to change how she parents. She needs to understand that the cultures are different, and that her methods might be a little extreme for Canadians...
ReplyDeleteThat is truely depressing. Sure, discipline is nessesary, but thats going to the extreme. Temporary grounding would have been enough. The mother's actions have set her apart from her family, and probably causes literal seperation for a long time. This is why you think before you act.
ReplyDeleteI couldnt of said it better myself. I think in this case the mother needed a time out.
DeleteThat's so sad that the mother did that to her own daughter. It's so terrible that the mom thought that was the right thing to do. It's a good thing that her dad saved her.
ReplyDeleteThis is insane. But the quote from the mother about "it will make her strong and give her wisdom" and "hopes she gets well" makes me wonder what the mother's intentions actually were.
ReplyDeleteThat's crazy..even under her parents rule she's 19 and adult she still should have her own choice and opinion of doing things.
ReplyDeleteThis is a terrible thing for a mother to do to her own daughter. Even though the daughter is rebellious, they should talk it out, and try other methods. But to stab her daughter, that is unacceptable. It may be custom in their homeland, but it is still horrific.
ReplyDeleteI understand the whole concept of honor killings and I'm glad we don't do that kind of thing in the U.S.
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